L1: Letting go of Friends

Picture a late, odd hour, say 2 am. It's been over 47mins of you tossing and turning, trying extremely hard to sleep. All the “white noise” and “meditative” music aren’t doing a great job either. If lying there, barely alive, all you can do is regret losing a friend, you need to read this.

From one human to another.

Here’s how it is going to go down; you either pass out from all the overwhelming thoughts or you just stay up & feel the sunrise; as the sentiments of defeat and regret slowly consume the brain. Not a very delightful feeling to experience, is it?

Let me remind you, “You are enough, and apparently, you did try everything you could.”

Here’s the thing about losing people, more often than not, it's not in your command to keep them close. People evolve, for good or worse doesn’t matter. They just evolve. As the evolution processes, you may/may not be a valuable part of their lives. See, the thing is, you need to stop trying to keep things glued together. If the puzzle doesn’t fit, you change the piece. Humans aren’t obligated to stay the same as they were when they met you.

We all grow up, and sadly so, we all grow apart.

I understand that the current moment does seem grim and that the time does appear sadistically pleased as your plight.
Would it ever feel better? Will you ever form such a real connection, as the one that you just lost? Is it even possible for you to put in the work to form a connection? Are you even worth staying for?
And a million other questions, are just a futile attempt at gaslighting yourself into believing that you aren’t worth it.
What an insult of self! Ain’t it?

Spoiler alert: All the thinking and sleepless nights won’t be of any help.

Should you cry about it? Of course, if it makes you feel relieved.
Should you be even missing them? Sure! We all are allowed to miss people we once loved. That’s why we have memories.
Should you reach out one last time to see if this was all just a fluke? No.

The bigger regret you’ll feel down the line is letting someone have such immense power over you that they could shatter your beliefs in a matter of seconds.

It might take a moment, but you will comprehend that people are capable & liable of making their own decisions without considering their effect on a single human. That is perfectly fine.
So, if someone decides to leave your life, irrespective of the events leading to the said decision, you are supposed to let them leave. Keep your sanity.
Accept the fact that they consciously chose to move out of your vicinity and as adults, people have enough brains to make their own decisions.

Friendly advice? Desperate chasing is never a good look on anyone. You ought to accept people’s behavior as it is. Henceforth, you are not required to make excuses for them.

Sometimes, there might not be a chance to say goodbye too. And that’s okay as well.

Hoping, you cherish all the amazing moments you shared and for every minute you miss them, it is a memory that fills your heart with gratitude.

You haven’t lived your life to its entirety yet and there are a million amazing people and places, waiting to be discovered.

That’s lesson 1 on self-love.

Bye.